The Maid Of Honor Speech – Some Quick Tips
My first attempt at making speeches was a disaster. I vowed that it would never happen again (assuming anyone would ever ask me to be a maid again!).
My advice is CHEAT! Don’t expect to be an instant expert. Anyone who makes a great wedding speech has almost certainly put in loads of practise beforehand.
I started reading books as I could about wedding speeches (and obviously, Maid of honor speeches books) . To be perfectly honest, I also bought loads of books about speech making techniques in general (and did everything they told me to!).
When it comes to your speech, here’s the most important tip I can give you.
Don’t Leave Your Speech Until The Last Minute.
1/ Do not leave it until the last minute to decide what to say in your. My first was a … well it wasn’t brilliant! The second was a hundred times better (because I had a plan).
You need to get it right well beforehand and then practice, practice, practice! You do not want to clam up (let’s face it, it’s an emotional day so the last thing you want to do is “choke” when your moment arrives).
Remember… messing up your best friend or sister’s wedding is going to be far worse than messing up your own. Could you ever look them in the face again?
2/ Be aware of how your maid / matron of honor toasts fits in with the rest of the speeches. You will be following the best man (who may well have just brought the house down). if he has then how are you going to follow that.
The obvious temptation is to try and “outwit” them. You have to resist this, particularly if you are your sisters matron of honor. You will know so much embarrassing stuff that you could easily overstep the mark.
There’s no back up or rewind button. Once it’s said, it’s said!
3/ Don’t make your maid of honor speech too long. There are umpteen speeches to get through. You don’t want to bore them to death!
Have a look at these books for some decent ideas.